
TESTIMONIALS

Voice of Session Experiencer
NN (Niigata Prefecture)
Through Ms. Miura's coma work session, I had a precious experience to touch the deep inner self. During the session, I became aware of my secondary qualities and natures such as “compassion” and “caring” that had been hidden within me, which felt like a light that saved and softened me. Through this realization, I became interested in the process of how people embody the wishes they hold in their lives and naturally developed self-love and self-acceptance. Furthermore, I feel that this session allowed me to listen to my inner voice, open the door to a new self, and find the foundation for a brighter future. I am deeply grateful to have shared such a precious time with you. (N.N., Niigata Prefecture)
Voice of Seminar Participants
YF
Participating in the reading sessions and seminars on coma work has given me a new perspective on life, and has given me the opportunity to accept various things that have occurred in my life and myself with a new meaning. In particular, I think it was a great harvest that I became a little more aware of what has been flowing at the root of my life up to now, and I seem to have made some progress in understanding where the things in my life that I unintentionally caused as failures and the discomfort I sometimes feel in my life come from. I am just at the beginning of my journey, but I would like to continue to learn and think about it. (Y.F.)

Voice of Reading Group Participants
YH
Learning about coma, which I had never thought about before, was difficult at first and I had a hard time following along, but I think I was able to understand it a little better with Ms. Miura's explanations. I also learned a lot from the stories of the participants.
I believe that as I learn more and more, I will be able to see clearly what was unclear.
Thank you very much. (Y.H.)

Comawork Story 1
My Experience with Comawork
ANGELES

BACKGROUND
Our departure from this world is unpredictable and sometimes unexpected, or it is announced in advance, but even so, we do not have the opportunity to say goodbye to our loved ones and there are things left unsaid or undone, usually because we do not know how to act in the face of these events.
Our father's illness began since 2012 (88 years old) with small signs such as sudden mood swings, forgetfulness that we did not give them importance, little by little he was isolating himself from everything and everyone, then came the balance problems with frequent falls, the forgetfulness already more evident; after being a great conversationalist and reader little by little he was leaving all that aside.
Already by 2016 with sleeping problems it was already evident that something was not right, it was in this year at his 91 years that he was diagnosed with "frontotemporal dementia" and the geriatrician told us: and get ready because it is going to get worse; and so it was, little by little he was deteriorating and entering another world different from ours and despite the treatment that followed him, it was not possible to stop the mental, physical and motor deterioration, coming to depend for everything on others, his face and his look stopped expressing, he was losing his speech and became bedridden, absent, irritable, with sleep disturbances, difficulty to understand and express himself.
And almost all the time asleep, which was a problem to communicate; in this scenario Kaori suggested to apply coma work to see and find the forms of communication that are open and work on them and to be able to relate with him, so with some doubts I accepted and thought maybe it would work.
Thus we began the sessions in October 2020 with relaxation exercises for the caregiver; synchronizing breathing of the patient and the caregiver in order to create an emotional connection of accompaniment and being, at the same time we had to observe if there was any response, however small it might be on his part, such as eye movements, facial expressions or words and sounds that told us that he was aware and somehow perceived us close and we could communicate by amplifying those signals; by speaking in his ear, for example hello... I am Ángeles... here I am, how are you? all synchronized with breathing, tranquility was observed on her face.
In another session we used physical contact, touching and releasing synchronized with breathing: when he inhaled, I squeezed his hand, when he exhaled I released, although he was sleeping, his expression was calm, it was a soul to soul communication, without the need to speak.
Session (20/11/20)
Movements are applied in arms and legs, either amplifying the movements or taking the opposite to what he does; in this, the result was that in the amplification everything flowed well, but when going against he resisted, which tells us that he realizes, although he has his eyes closed and absent.
Session (4/12/20)
When mobilizing his arms, he pronounces loose words such as: I am cold, a lot of water, it is very cold out there, let me so I am comfortable; he gets upset if I make him uncomfortable and always with closed eyes, his answers tell us that he is aware and that the being is there and it is possible to communicate from soul to soul.
Session (18/12/20)
He keeps talking about "warm water", "lots of water", I talk to his ear and tell him that "everything is fine", "there is nothing to be afraid of", while I take his hands amplifying his movements, in response he opens and closes his eyes; to change his diaper he resists and gets angry, I touch him gently and talk to him in a low and soft tone, I explain him what I am going to do and only then he accepts without resistance. Sometimes he emits repetitive and loud sounds continuously, which end up exasperating me, like every expression this has a meaning, something he needs to do, I must forget how annoying they are and understand that he is expressing his accumulated energy and it is up to us to help him to get that energy out, amplifying sounds and movements. With these new forms of communication, I think he feels safe and supported by the expression on his face, and there is less anger.
Session (01/29/21)
One as a family would like him to get better and go back to the way he used to be, I am somewhat resistant to this. Kaori suggests me to talk to him in his ear and express my emotions and talk to him as daughter to father: "I can give me permission for you not to leave, but if your need is other, I support you" at this my father squeezes my hand opens his eyes and says: thank you daughter and go back to sleep.
Session (12/02/21)
During the exercise he says: "red horse", amplifying his "dream" we tell him: guide us, you are a red horse riding towards freedom, amplifying the movements and talking to his ear, his face expresses to be happy.
Thus, the sessions continued until April 17, 2021 applying as much as possible what we learned, little by little he was deteriorating more and more, one time he suddenly sat up in bed, when we asked him how he was, he only said: "consumatu est" and went back to bed and returned to his permanent sleep. Little by little, he stopped eating and drinking water, and became weaker every day, by family consensus we decided not to do anything extraordinary in terms of treatment, only to assist and accompany him with quality care and dignity to leave life and embark on his journey to freedom; finally, our father died on 04/21/21 in his bed and at home in silence as when a candle is extinguished, so he flew high to freedom. Thanks to Kaori and her coma work, there are no regrets, no guilt, only gratitude, peace and tranquility, to have made a quality and warm accompaniment to our father; I took the pain and anger that produced me to see him in those conditions and transformed it into compassion and from there we rode together on his journey to freedom. I read it somewhere and I liked the phrase: "to accompany him in his natural process towards freedom is a privilege of few”.

Comawork Story 2
Comawork and My Father
KARO

In the palliative ward where my father spent the last three weeks of his life, he was allowed to visit even during the COVID19 disaster, and we were able to spend about an hour together almost every day in the hospital room where I dropped by after work. When we were still able to talk on a daily basis immediately after his transfer to the palliative ward, I asked him about specific wishes, such as arrangements for his grave and the disposal of his long-time cherished Shinto altar, as well as about his childhood memories, episodes in his life, and recent dreams he had. Perhaps due to the prescription of strong painkillers for the terminal stage of bile duct cancer, I gradually got the impression that he was in a half-dream world even when he was able to talk, and his somnolence and dazed state of consciousness increased. I still vividly recall the sensation of fluttering steps toward the parking lot at sunset after leaving my father's hospital room, enveloped by a strange energy.
In process-oriented psychology, childhood dreams and memories are considered to be blueprints for a person's life.
My earliest memory of my life is of waking up in the middle of the night to the sound of my parents quarreling and sitting quietly on my grandfather's lap at the age 1~2 years old. My parents had been at odds for as long as I can remember, and their divorce was finalized when I moved to Tokyo for college. Compared to my maternal grandparents, who were compassionate, service-oriented people, my father seemed extremely self-asserting and ego-centered, and it was hopeless for me to share his values. The distance between my father and me, which I had been keeping since adolescence in marked rebellion against him, did not change even after I returned to Japan with my husband and eldest son after living abroad for more than 12 years.
When my father was diagnosed with stage 4 bile duct cancer at the same time I was taking care of my grandmother at home, I persuaded my mother so that my father would move to a separate wing of the house, offering specific conditions that would allow us to live at a reasonable distance from each other.
After months of hospitalization and treatment, my father moved in and became unexpectedly healthy. Even during the three years that he spent at his own pace while undergoing outpatient treatment, our relationship did not improve significantly, as we clashed on several occasions over mutual non-negotiables.
Shortly after his 81st birthday in September of the year of his death, he became ill while driving and was taken to the emergency room, where he stayed until November 20, except for a half day when he was allowed to go home temporarily. I am deeply grateful to the warm medical staff for not only relieving my father's physical pain, but also for warmly attending to his story and providing a place for him to stay for the last days of his life. When I met my father in the palliative ward in a different state of consciousness from his daily life, I found that behind his strong and self-centered attitude, I could see emotions that had been left behind in his childhood when the air raids on Tokyo during World War II completely changed the family life, and I saw that deep down in his heart, a prayer for abundance itself was still alive. There were several events that I witnessed.
As he became more and more dazed, I continued to engage him through the basic skills of coma work, going down to where he was, speaking to him, and supporting him by picking up on his physical tendencies and subtle movements. This shared time of feeling deep empathy and connection with my father, accepting his entire "life," was one of the greatest gifts of my life and a new benchmark for understanding human nature, although I am not entirely free of sadness that I did not reach such a relationship with my father when he was still healthy. It became one of the greatest gifts of my life and a new indicator of my understanding of human nature.
The human perspective of Process-Oriented Psychology, based on depth psychology, emphasizes the importance of consciously taking on the roles in which we function on a daily basis, while experientially awakening to our individuality and inherent power that "sleeps" in the vast ocean of depths (personal and collective unconscious) beneath the continent of consciousness, and through this, " We support the rediscovery of the meaning of life. When we are in a "special state of consciousness," we may say that we are open to the possibility of self-identifying with a deeper wholeness (the essence of our being) and a sense of self that we could not live with before, in our internal experiences (visual or auditory). The training I have received over the past four years of coma work has included a review of my own life, moving fluidly back and forth along this vertical axis of consciousness with the light of "awareness," which has enabled me to encounter the essence of my father in a way that was not easily possible in the relationship between "roles" within the fixed family system. I think this made it possible for me to encounter the essence of my father, which could not be easily accommodated in the fixed relationship between "roles" in the family system.
The night before he passed away, when I visited him in his hospital room after finishing work, he seemed to be sleeping, but I felt that he had firmly received my words that "we are all together, connected like a mala or a string of prayer beads," which came to my mind as I spoke to him starting from the breathing together of the coma work. I vividly remember supporting his hands as if he was praying, his arms rose so light above his head and changed to a gesture of stretching toward the heavens, and when he seemed to untie the knot of his jacket and take it off, I told him, "You can take it (the body) off now.
The next day, when I had no break at work giving psychological consultations whole day, just as the last session finished and my client stood up, his doctor called on my cell phone and told me that he was about to stop breathing. When we arrived at the hospital, a five-minute drive away, my father was still warm as he lay there, then I said to him, "I know you waited for me to finish work schedule of the day." and could express my gratitude and sympathy. After the family funeral, my father's love and compassion continued to reach me in the form of rainbows that suddenly appeared, the moon that continued to accompany him on his downpour journey home, sunlight that broke through the clouds, and words that appeared like inspiration among his left belongings.
I believe that when we meet each other in deeper level as an extreme state of consciousness including coma, our daily level conflicts and wounded relationships are wrapped up and brought deep healing. My last hours with my father also healed my parent-child relationship conflicts and the resulting hurt from my childhood in a totally unexpected way.
This has supported my desire to offer Process-Oriented Coma Work to help family and friends in the process of coma, dementia, and end-of-life care, to be close to their loved one's special state of consciousness, to connect with them on a deeper level than before, and to live with them in a transformation that transcends life and death. We support your desire to connect with your loved ones at a deeper level than before and help them to live a transformation beyond life and death together.